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Money Makes The Man

Being a single woman who is looking for a life-partner is difficult! Not because of the selection of men or dating…it’s the stereotypes that are a killer!

Women go for the money ~ Not the man!

Only an insecure man would say something like that and in return, women are frowned upon for mentioning the importance of money! What’s wrong with wanting security? What’s wrong with wanting money? Everyone wants it, but we’re just not allowed to say it out loud?

For your information Mr. Insecure, it’s not the “MONEY”! It’s the confidence, the ambition and the peace of mind knowing that I won’t be living out of a cardboard box next month! And I will give you the benefit of the doubt, there are definitely some serious gold-diggers out there and I will even help you pick them out of the crowd, they look like this….

 
Any decent and respectable man would not tolerate a relationship where he gave 100% while his better-half sat on her ass all day and didn’t apply herself to become a better person! If a man doesn’t have to tolerate it then why should I? And enough already with the bread-winner crap, we don’t live in the stone-age anymore, I don’t need your money…I have my own! What I need is someone who respects himself enough to strive for a better future with the person he loves! Someone who wants to invest in me just as much as I want to invest in him!

***** Q & A ******

If Promotion is to Money,

Use the hidden factors to retain your answer using X,Y and Z!

X = Ambition [+] Y= Education [+] Z= Confidence [=] MONEY!!

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Now, call me crazy, but you’ll have to excuse me for choosing a guy with a steady head on his shoulders over a dead-beat who could care less about finding the equation to succeeding in life!

Now, don’t get me wrong! We all know there are plenty of good guys out there who struggle to succeed in life, and damit that sucks ~ ~ ~ ~ then go do something about it, everyone else does, what’s your excuse? (Excuses are like assholes, everyone’s got ‘em)

There’s a reason why some people have money and others don’t. A big percent being, how we are raised and the environment in which we are raised in. People with money are able to offer their children more, expose them to bigger and better things! However so are people without a lot of money….it’s called education and surrounding your child with people more educated than yourself!

It’s very common for a lower-class family to raise a child without any ambition or goals in life, simply because they don’t know any better (but come on… unless you’re living under a rock, everyone knows there are great things in this world right at our fingertips). You can’t convince me it’s impossible to reverse the roles and here’s why I say this…

**Dollar stores…they sell sports equipment… “practice makes perfect”… so go outside and help your child get a scholarship in football!

**Libraries…go read with your child – even the children/teenage/adult reading groups are FREE!! For goodness sakes, my local library even offers computer classes for $8

**Home depot has free hands-on building-kits for kids every 1st Saturday of the month

**The Museum of Contemporary Art in Chicago is free to families every 2nd Saturday of the month which include hands-on art activities.

The more a child is exposed to different things, the more ambitious they become, the more educated they become, the more confident they get in social surroundings…which is all in the equation to success!

Why is it important to teach our children to strive for the greater things in life but when we ask for it ourselves, we’re categorized as a gold-digger?

So, please don’t call me superficial, conceded or money-hungry. You can however, respect me for choosing to date a man with ambition and intelligence over a man who’s main goal in life is to do nothing about it!

It’s NOT money that makes a man…It’s a man’s ambition to live life to the fullest ~ can you please tell me what’s WRONG with a woman being attracted to that?

April 28, 2009 | Dating